The number one reason people give for not wanting to go to a support group meeting is the perception that it's just a bunch of people getting together to whine and complain. While members need to be able to bring up problems, you always need to bring the focus back to finding solutions. Don't allow the meeting to degenerate into an anger or self-pity session. When a problem is presented, encourage other members to come up with positive ways to deal with it.

Here are some ways to keep support group meetings positive:

• Stick to a planned agenda. This allows members to ask questions about certain topics, but also help keep the focus during the meeting.
• Work on group problem solving. Different support group members have different thoughts and opinions. It may be helpful for others to share their experiences with one another.
• Use the buddy system. Encourage group members to find someone in the support group with whom they can exchange numbers and agree to be a mutual support system.